A customer wrote in with the subsequent dilemma:
My son is thirteen and now he desires a Facebook account. I have read all the horror stories and I am genuinely unwilling to allow it. I know lots of of his friends are on Facebook and he feels left out. What really should I do?
This is a excellent dilemma. There is so significantly we need to have to know. The finest area to get started is to understand the professionals and drawbacks of Facebook and the Web.
1. The Execs and Downsides:
Execs: Facebook like all social networking web sites strengnthens connections with friends and loved ones. (I just identified an previous condominium mate from my to start with yr in faculty on Facebook.
Little ones can maintain in contact with friends from camp, and little ones that are not in their course or university. Facebook can assist little ones coordinate and collaborate on projects, forgotten research assignments and impromptu get togethers. Little ones can contact their academics or coaches much more quickly. This aids them become much more dependable and structured about their university work and extracurricular routines.
Downsides: For the reason that of Facebook, little ones are not finding enough observe conversing to their peers experience to experience. Scientists have identified that little ones who use social networking web sites completely may perhaps have poorer communications competencies and much more misunderstandings with friends. This is the serious scary aspect: social networks are frequently conduits for cyber bullying and are hunting grounds for sexual predators. Gurus are also anxious with the increase of obsessive behaviors involved with not only Facebook but with blackberries, iphones, itouchs and plain previous mobile telephones.
If that is not enough, academics and coaches may perhaps hook up with mother and father much more, moving the obligation of research and checks away from little ones to their mother and father.
2. Allow's be friends:
Most professionals agree that if your little one does have a Facebook account you need to have to good friend them so that you can maintain a close eye on their website page. You basically need to have to have their to start with good friend. If you attended any of my parenting classes you will know that I do not advocate staying your little one's good friend. You need to have to be the dad or mum, the authority figure and job model in their lives. This is the exception.
My good friend's daughter, Kayla, has a Facebook account. Kayla's uncle has a task in which he has to watch Facebook consistently. He checks Kayla's website page often and scares away the boys that write-up on her website page. Kudos to intrusive, overbearing uncles. Little ones become intensely irritated with nosy mother and father but tend to be much more very good natured with the meddling of their extended loved ones.